Make sure to warm up first
First and foremost, make sure your hands are clean and your fingernails are trimmed, because you’re going to be putting them in a very sensitive place, Morse says. Due to its tucked-away location, “fingers are usually most effective at finding and stimulating the G-spot,” she adds.
Like anything else related to sex, foreplay is paramount, she stresses. Focus on kissing and caressing your partner’s lips, breasts, butt, and other non-genital hot spots for several minutes before getting down to business. “The G-spot is composed of tissue that swells when it becomes aroused,” Morse says. “If she’s already turned on, it will be much easier for you to find it and go about pleasing her.” Even if your partner is moist from foreplay, Morse notes that a few drops of lubricant might make things more comfortable for her.
How to find her G-spot
While it’s not clear if every woman gets off on G-spot stimulation, there’s little debate about where the controversial pleasure point can be found in the women who do. “It’s about 2 inches inside of the vagina, on the top side of the vaginal wall,” Morse says.
If your partner is on her back and you insert a finger with your palm facing the ceiling, the “top side” of her vagina is the spot you’ll touch by curling your finger in a come-hither motion, almost like you’re trying to stroke her belly button from the inside. If you're having trouble, have her draw her knees back toward her chest to give your fingers better access, Morse says.